I was her old boss, but it was more than that. She emailed, “I was offered a new job, I can’t decide.” I knew we needed to talk. I tried calling a few times that day. We’re both busy. Finally, I left an enthusiastic short-cut message with answers.
I shared my best “heartfelt, short-cut” response: 5 reasons she SHOULD take this job. Stretch. Professional Growth. Exposure and some stuff more personal. I ended with mutterings about taking this risk and to call me.
No Short-Cuts without Questions
She called me. Thankfully before she followed any of that short-cut advice. Given the context, it was wrong.
Life is always more complicated than it appears.
People. Personalities. Dynamics. Stuff (for those so inclined, please feel free to substitute a stronger S word).
I listened. More. A few questions and then more listening.
The job clearly looked good on paper, but the personal stakes were high. At some point stakes matter more. As does timing.
“I hear your heart. You don’t want this job. Delete my voicemail,” I shared, trying to be as enthusiastic in my retraction as I was in the initial advice.
We both breathed a sigh of relief.