Parents as Leadership Coaches

parents inspire leadership

It’s interesting to see leaders who take their servant leadership philosophy seriously at work, but have a more hovering approach when it comes to their children. In an effort to protect and scaffold, they actually overlook natural opportunities for their children to emerge as leaders. The best way to learn the piano is to practice. The best way to learn to do a flip-turn is to get in the pool and get some water up your nose. The best way to learn leadership is by leading. Our children surprise us when we stop looking for perfection and see the leaders that they are becoming.

Having my kids spread so far apart, I’ve had the joy of my son, Ben, now a college freshman, really mature into an inspiring leader across many contexts at school, the community, at church, and even working with the United Nations. As I was writing the Parent’s Guide to Leadership, I asked him what he remembers most about our work on leadership growing up.

Ben shared:

“It’s not just one technique, but an entire parenting philosophy. I was always involved and given a great deal of responsibility in decisions. We worked out a lot of plans together.”

This Summer I’ve had the joy of working with him as a true partner as he interns for Let’s Grow Leaders. As I prepared a trust workshop for a group from Nigeria, we shared ideas of what exercises would work best culturally, I wrote content, he made slides and tools pop visually.

We discovered how differently our brains worked and the wonderful synergy that came from really listening to each other’s ideas. There were times I was taking direction from him. It was fun to work together as partners, with the parent- child boundaries beginning to blur.

This week we’re Scuba diving and the roles are completely reversed. An aspiring Scuba instructor, it’s clear he’s got more confidence, competence and commitment than me for this sport. I’m mostly there to play with the fishes (and take great pics). I do whatever he says and follow his underwater hand signals no questions asked. I feel safe under his leadership. It’s fun and fulfilling to tread some water and follow your child as they lead the adventure.

Introducing A Parent’s Guide To Leadership

Today, I’m pleased to share with you the Parent’s Guide to Leadership: How To Inspire Leadership in Young Children which I’ve co-written with Alli Polin with a guest chapter from Matt McWilliams, This is a free e-book available for download. Just follow the directions on the sidebar and you’ll receive an email with a link to download. This won’t subscribe you to my blog (you’ll need to do that separately if you want to join fun). This list is just for folks interested in leadership and parenting. We’ve got a children’s picture book in the works as well, and we’ll keep you posted when that’s published.

Your Turn: Please share your best ideas for developing leadership in children
Filed Under:   Developing Leadership In Children
Karin Hurt
Karin Hurt
Karin Hurt is a keynote speaker, leadership consultant, and MBA professor. A former Verizon Wireless executive, she has over two decades of experience in sales, customer service, and HR which she leverages to help clients turn around results through deeper engagement. She was recently named on Inc's list of 100 Great Leadership Speakers, AMA's 50 Leaders to Watch in 2015, and a Top 100 Thought Leader in Trustworthy Business. She knows the stillness of a yogi, the reflection of a marathoner, and the joy of being a mom raising emerging leaders.

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Steve Borek   |   25 June 2014   |   Reply

Model the way.

Karin Hurt   |   25 June 2014   |   Reply

Steve,that’s my favorite one tool

Karin Hurt   |   25 June 2014   |   Reply

Steve,that’s my favorite one too.

Terri Klass   |   25 June 2014   |   Reply

Congratulations on the e-book Karin! Can’t wait to get mine!

Karin Hurt   |   25 June 2014   |   Reply

Terri, Thanks so much. We’ve had so much fun writing it.

Tom Rhodes   |   25 June 2014   |   Reply

You and Alli are right on the money. When I spoke at my Dads memorial service. I said “my Dad was the definition of a Servant Leader, not only at work but at home. He let us learn and grow, had the needed tough conversations when we got too far off the path, then told us how proud he was.” If as parents we don’t allow our children to make mistakes they will never learn. We guide, we teach and we help them when asked to make the best decisions.
Great post and ebook.

Thanks for all you do.


Karin Hurt   |   25 June 2014   |   Reply

Thanks so very much! I really appreciate your kind words. Thanks for sharing your story about your Dad.

LaRae Quy   |   25 June 2014   |   Reply

Congratulations on your book! This is so exciting…It will be an important book for parents tring to understand how to coach their children on how to be leaders.

Can’t wait to read it :-)

Karin Hurt   |   25 June 2014   |   Reply

LaRae, Thanks so very much. Now on to write about Energizing leadership ;-)

Paul LaRue   |   26 June 2014   |   Reply

Something I’ve learned in the past 2 years: Get children to serve others early. Being a servant leader doesn’t need to wait for adult or teen years.

Karin Hurt   |   26 June 2014   |   Reply

Paul, Totally agree. Thanks so much.