My friend, Regina, says that she considers a kid’s book report a win if only one person ends up crying. I remember the wailing and gnashing of teeth I put my parents through in the early years. And last night was one of those nights at the Hurt household. My husband, a firefighter, was on an overnight shift, so it was just me, Sebastian, a bucket of Swedish Fish and the promise of a very long night.
I imagine most parents are familiar with the “I didn’t start early enough, and now we need to go to the Walgreens for supplies, stay up half the night and get up early in the a.m., finish just in time to get to school with wet hair and no breakfast kind of loving feeling.”
What makes these nights so hard is that the parent holds the standards.
“Nope, that’s not what the rubric says. We have to follow the guidelines or you’ll lose points.”
“I know it’s late, but your handwriting is getting really sloppy. I’m sorry, but you’re going to have to re-write that part.”
Cue the tears.
“Okay, you’ve done all the basics, now how are we going to make this really stand out?”
It be much easier to just get through the basics. After all, it’s JUST a book report.
The Powerful Side Effect
And then there’s the side effect. On the ride to school this morning, Sebastian was glowing. “I think this is the best report I’ve ever done.” “I’m sure this is going to be the very best one.” “I can’t imagine I won’t get an A.” “I can’t wait to show my teacher.” And my personal favorite, “Mom, you know you did a really good job too.” ;-)
Pride. Confidence. Energy.
Too often I see managers back off their standards, letting their team just get by. After all it’s only a ______.
That’s not leadership.
Tough standards, gentle inspiration.
When you’re tempted to buy into “This is impossible,” consider the side effect.
See also The Power of Great Expectations
7 Ways to Outsmart the Competition: The Series
This is the final post in the series of 7 ways to outsmart the competition. Links below. I’m considering turning this into a keynote. What do you think?
7. And today’s: Hold a higher standard