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How to Be the Team Player Everyone Wants to Work With

How to Be a Great Team Player (the person everyone wants to work with)

by | Jan 27, 2025 | By Karin Hurt and David Dye |

Want to be Everyone’s Favorite Teammate? Master These 4 Cs of Collaboration

“Oh, I’m a great team player.” Says anyone who’s ever sat across from us in an interview. The truth is some truly turned out to be. Others not so much.

You don’t build a solid reputation as a great teammate, by being the fun guy at happy hour, or replying with “Sounds good” to every email.

People appreciate a teammate who makes work easier, not harder.

The one who shows up with Connection, Clarity, Curiosity, and Commitment — aka the Four C’s of productive collaboration that ground our book Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Workplace Conflict and our SynergyStack™ Team Development System.

4 Practical Ways to Be a Great Team Player

Let’s walk through how you can use these four dimensions to become the person everyone wants on their team.

1. Build Genuine Connections by Offering and Asking for Help

People work with people — not tasks or job titles. If you want to be known as a great team player, you’ve got to connect on a human level. Think beyond the “How was your weekend?” small talk and get curious about what makes your teammates tick and what they need. In our leadership development programs, we talk about being interested and interesting.

If someone’s drowning in deadlines, don’t just watch from the sidelines like it’s a reality show. Offer a hand. And if they turn you down? Offer again. Sometimes people need to know you mean it. And then do what you say.

What to Say:

“I noticed you’ve been juggling a lot lately. How can I take something off your plate?”

When you build trust by offering to help, people stop seeing you as “just another coworker” and start seeing you as a true partner.

And, when you need help, ask for what you need. Research shows that people who ask for help, are more trusted by their co-workers.

2. Create Clarity: Confusion Kills Collaboration

Ever played a game of “Guess What I’m Thinking” with your boss or coworkers? It’s exhausting. Clarity matters.

Be the teammate who cuts through the noise by asking questions and confirming expectations upfront. If everyone knows what success looks like (and what it doesn’t), you’ll save yourself from future headaches like, “Wait, I was supposed to do that?”

What to Ask:

“What would a successful outcome look like for this project?”
“How can I help to move this forward?”

And don’t just nod along when you think you understand. Recap what’s been discussed with a check for understanding to ensure everyone’s on the same page. No one wants to be the person who “agrees” only to realize later they agreed to completely the wrong thing.

What to Say:

“Let’s confirm what we’ve agreed on. I’ll take [this], and you’ll handle [that], right?”

3. Cultivate Curiosity: Avoid Jumping to Conclusions

We’ve been there too. Someone misses a deadline, and your brain instantly fills in the gaps. “Ugh, they’re so lazy!” But what if they’re balancing five other priorities or dealing with something personal?

One way to be a great team player is to master the art of genuine curiosity. This means giving people the benefit of the doubt and asking thoughtful questions before assuming the worst. It also makes you the teammate who listens instead of waiting for their turn to talk.

One of our favorite curiosity G.O.A.T.s (greatest of all time powerful phases) is…

“I’m curious how this looks from your perspective.”

It’s hard to be curious and furious at the same time. So, showing up curious also has the benefit of less stress for everyone.

4. Show Commitment: Be the Person Who Delivers

Nobody loves a teammate who overpromises and underdelivers. If you commit to something, follow through. If something changes, communicate early. It’s simple: Trust is built on action, not intention.

Sidebar on What to Say When You are faced with a difficult workplace and environment as shared in Powerful PhrasesWant to build a reputation for reliability? Be the one who shows up, even when it’s inconvenient. (Pro tip: Showing up also means being present — no half-listening on Zoom while secretly shopping for office chairs.)

One of our favorite ways to do this is to, “schedule the finish” to take the lead to talk about how your commitments are working.

“Let’s schedule time to check in next week and see how this plan is working.”

When you follow up, you show that you care about results, not just checking off a task list. And if something didn’t work? You’re already there to course-correct.

The Four C’s in Action: A Quick Scenario

Let’s say your team is struggling with a delayed project. Here’s how you can show up as a great team player using the Four C’s:

Connection:
“I know we’re all feeling the pressure right now, and I want to help. What’s the biggest challenge we’re facing?”

Clarity:
“Let’s clarify what we need to deliver by Friday and who’s responsible for each part.”

Curiosity:
“I’m curious — what roadblocks are we seeing, and how can we solve them?”

Commitment:
“Let’s check in tomorrow afternoon to make sure we’re on track. I’ll take the lead on preparing an update for leadership.”

What would you add as #5?  What are the qualities of a great team player?

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2 Comments
  1. Sheila Knight-Fields

    Continuation – once this initial work is done, what’s next? How do you keep the great movement going?

    Reply
    • Karin Hurt

      Thanks for asking, Sheila! This is something we are quite passionate about– building lasting habits. One way we work with clients is through our SynergyStack™ Team Development System, to help teams align on habits and make a practical plan to integrate them into their work. More here. https://letsgrowleaders.com/team-development-synergystack/

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Karin Hurt and David Dye help human-centered leaders find clarity in uncertainty, drive innovation, and achieve breakthrough results. As CEO and President of Let’s Grow Leaders, they are known for practical tools and leadership development programs that stick. Karin and David are the award-winning authors of five books including, Courageous Cultures: How to Build Teams of Micro-Innovators, Problem Solvers, and Customer Advocates and Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Workplace Conflict. A former Verizon Wireless executive, Karin was named to Inc. Magazine’s list of great leadership speakers. David Dye is a former executive and elected official. Karin and David are committed to their philanthropic initiative, Winning Wells – building clean water wells for the people of Cambodia.

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