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Have you ever worried that if you accept help you could jeopardize your credibility or not get the credit when things turn around?

Today’s Asking for a Friend addresses this common concern.

“Hey, Karin, I’ll admit it. My team’s results are not where they need to be. It’s been a rocky couple of months. We are struggling. But my manager now wants to bring in all kinds of help: people from HR, training, and even my peers.

I’m worried because if we turn this thing around, I think everybody’s going to say, “Well, of course, the results got better, but it wasn’t HIM who did it. It was all these other people.” What should I do?” #askingforafriend

Embracing Assistance: How to Accept Help and Lead Successfully

Accept Help

Let’s talk about a situation many leaders face, but few openly discuss. Imagine you’re at the helm of a team that’s hit a rough patch. The results aren’t up to par, and it’s been a challenging few months. Then, your manager decides it’s time to bring in external help. Now, that’s a situation that can stir up a mix of emotions.

The Dilemma: Accept Help

You might find yourself wrestling with thoughts like, “If we turn this around, will they say it wasn’t me but the new help that made the difference?” It’s a valid concern, but let’s flip the script.

The Perils of Not Accepting Help

Refusing to accept help can backfire. Worst case scenario? You say, “No thanks, I’ve got this,” but the results don’t improve. Now, you’re dealing with two issues:

  1. Your results are still lagging.
  2. You’re perceived as someone who isn’t a team player, more concerned about credit than actual results.

Accept Help, Lead with Confidence

Now, imagine a different scenario. You accept help, and the results improve. What people notice first are the positive outcomes, not who did what. But here’s the kicker: how do you accept help and still shine as a leader?

Six Steps to Successfully Accept Help

  1. Invite People In: Embrace assistance with confident humility.
  2. Align on a Vision: Ensure everyone understands the end goal.
  3. Be Involved in the Strategy: Use the resources wisely without losing your leadership role.
  4. Make Careful Choices: Prevent overwhelm by delegating effectively.
  5. Monitor Results: Keep an eye on what’s working to replicate success.
  6. Thank the Helpers: Acknowledge the contribution of others and celebrate the success together.

When you accept help and use it wisely, you’re not just fixing immediate issues; you’re building a stronger, more adaptable team.

Your Turn

So, that’s my take on why it’s important to accept help and how to do it while leading confidently. What are your thoughts? Ever been in a similar situation? How did you handle it?

Want more powerful phrases for dealing with tricky situations?

If you’ve noticed we’ve been talking about workplace conflict and collaboration a lot recently, it’s because we’ve been doing a lot of research, learning from people all over the world about their biggest workplace conflicts and what they would do differently next time. More on that research here.

In the meantime, our new book, Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Workplace Conflict: What to Say Next to Destress the Workday, Build Collaboration, and Calm Difficult Customers is AVAILABLE FOR PRE-ORDER NOW,  and we’re working on building our speaking tour for Spring 2024 (you can take a quick peek at some of our new conflict and collaboration programs here).


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Karin Hurt

Karin Hurt helps human-centered leaders find clarity in uncertainty, drive innovation, and achieve breakthrough results.  She’s the founder and CEO of Let’s Grow Leaders, an international leadership development and training firm known for practical tools and leadership development programs that stick. She’s the award-winning author of four books including Courageous Cultures: How to Build Teams of Micro-Innovators, Problem Solvers, and Customer Advocates and Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Workplace Conflict, and a hosts the popular Asking For a Friend Vlog on LinkedIn. A former Verizon Wireless executive, Karin was named to Inc. Magazine’s list of great leadership speakers. Karin and her husband and business partner, David Dye, are committed to their philanthropic initiative, Winning Wells – building clean water wells for the people of Cambodia.

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