How Can I Be Authentic at Work (and Still Fit in)?

The Sweet Spot Between Being Authentic at Work and Being Relatable

Let’s dive in.

1. Think About Values and Boundaries

Here’s the thing: authenticity doesn’t mean you need to spill every personal detail or wear your personality on your sleeve (or in my case, on a hiking trail).

I like to think about authenticity at work as a range. For example, I’m authentically me whether I’m hiking with my hair pulled back in a ponytail or on stage delivering a keynote in a polished dress and heels. I’m engaged in activities I care about. Doing the best I can.

Now, reverse those roles—imagine me in hiking gear on stage or teetering up a mountain in heels. Not only would it be less effective, but I’d look absolutely ridiculous.

At work, consider your range of authenticity. What feels true to who you are but still fits the context? Where’s that line between being yourself and being effective?

2. Ask Yourself: What’s the Most Unique, Important Contribution I Can Make Right Now?

When you’re feeling uncomfortable or out of place, don’t overthink your quirks or second-guess your instincts. Focus on the value you bring to the table.

Ask yourself: What’s the one thing I can offer in this moment that no one else can?

Whether it’s a fresh perspective, a big-picture idea, or just being the calm voice in a chaotic meeting, leaning into your unique strengths helps you show up authentically and with purpose.

3. Ask for Feedback

Here’s a pro tip: instead of stressing over whether you’re getting it right, just ask.

Try this: “Do you feel like I’m showing up authentically in this situation? Why or why not?”

You might discover you’re perceived as more authentic than you realize—or you might get some actionable insights on how to show up in a way that feels more aligned with both you and the team.

Take the feedback for what it is: data. Use it to fine-tune how you navigate your relationships at work.

4. Don’t Force Authenticity

You know that feeling when someone overshares on day one, and it’s less “authentic connection” and more “emotional whiplash”? Yeah, don’t do that.

Authenticity at work doesn’t mean putting it all out there at once. It’s about pacing yourself, building trust, and showing up as interested and interesting.

Genuine authenticity comes from genuine curiosity—being genuinely interested in other people’s perspectives while sharing enough about yourself to spark meaningful connections.

A Final Thought

Authenticity at work isn’t about being one-dimensional or unfiltered—it’s about being real in a way that helps you connect, contribute, and thrive. Find your sweet spot between being real and being relatable, and you’ll hit the authenticity jackpot.

I’m curious. What’s one way you’ve struck that balance lately?