why to be over-confident every now and then

Why to Be Over-confident (every now and then)

There’s a name for people who are over-confident all the time. And it’s not good. But every now and then, the situation calls for a quick response of “I know exactly what to do, follow me.”

Over-confident Lessons from the Port-o-Pot

The outdoor wedding on the water was beautiful, the bar was open and the line for the fanciest version of a Port-o-Pot I’ve ever seen was long–which is why so many heard the screams of the little boy who couldn’t escape from the potty on wheels.

His cries grew more frantic as his dad and others tried to calm him down. “Lucas, it’s going to be okay… just turn the knob…. please stop crying….” Lucas stayed stuck. There was a key, but it was on the inside. It was starting to feel like one of those stories that would be really funny when Luke is 22, but tonight, not so much.

Never having met the kid, I knew he wouldn’t recognize my voice. I walked over to the door. “Hi Lucas, this is Karin, and I’m the potty expert. I know all about these things. All you have to do is turn the knob to the right.” (His dad, whispers to me, “Actually, I think it’s to the left.”) “Oh, wait, I was thinking about the girl’s potty, sorry about that. Sometimes I can be so silly. Just turn it to the left.”

Click. Out comes Lucas.

Confidence begets confidence.

When someone is really struggling, what they often need most is confident scaffolding.

Clearly, I’m not the potty expert (although, now I don’t think I’m ever going to lose that title with my large gaggle of cousins).

Every now and then what employees need most is to feel confident, to feel safe, and to see a clear path forward.

Sometimes the best answer isn’t “Let’s brainstorm here” or “What do you think?”– all great approaches which I advocate for much of the time.

Every now and then the best leadership solution is a simple. “I’ve got you. You’re in good hands. Try this. You’re going to be just fine.”

Your turn, have you ever been in a scene that called you to be over-confident?

See Also: How to Encourage Your Team When Results are Disappointing

When Overconfidence is an Asset, and When It’s a Liability (HBR)

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Karin Hurt

Karin Hurt, Founder of Let’s Grow Leaders, helps leaders around the world achieve breakthrough results, without losing their soul. A former Verizon Wireless executive, she has over two decades of experience in sales, customer service, and HR. She was named on Inc's list of 100 Great Leadership Speakers and American Management Association's 50 Leaders to Watch. She’s the author of several books: Courageous Cultures: How to Build Teams of Micro-Innovators, Problem Solvers, and Customer Advocates (Harper Collins Summer 2020), Winning Well: A Manager's Guide to Getting Results-Without Losing Your Soul, Overcoming an Imperfect Boss, and Glowstone Peak.

5 Comments

  1. What a wonderful message Karin. You helped me choose my own confidence at an important juncture.

    Your words are also a great reminder that sometimes the person who’s emotionally involved is NOT the best advisor–confirming a family decision I just went through. It also reminds me that as leaders we need to be aware of the big picture so that we can be more likely to choose the most meaningful process or answer.

    Thank you!

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