Sudden layoff: How Do I Help My Friend Who Just Lost Their Job?

Practical Ways to Show Up as a Human-Centered Supporter after a Sudden Layoff

Your friend just lost their job—suddenly, unfairly, and without warning.

Maybe it was part of a mass layoff, a quiet restructure triggered by AI automation, or a cost-cutting wave in the wake of yet another reorg. Either way, your friend is reeling. The work they cared about is gone. Their identity feels shaken. And you’re standing there, wondering how to help—without offering false hope or empty clichés.

People ask me this every day: “What do I say to someone I care about when they’ve just been laid off?”

Let’s talk about it.

Here are six human-centered, practical ways to support a friend who’s been affected by a sudden layoff—especially in this fast-changing world of AI-driven disruption.

1. Start With Presence, Not Platitudes

Layoffs triggered by AI other major changes, aren’t just about lost income. They’re about relevance, purpose, and identity. The most important thing you can do?

Be there. Listen. Make space.

Try our this Powerful Phrase

“I’m here. Tell me more.”

“I’m here. Tell me more.”

Three magic words. “Tell me more” is an open invitation—one that signals you’re there to listen. And if you’re worried you won’t have the “right” thing to say: You don’t need to. What matters most is that they feel heard.

One thing to avoid: those well-meaning but cringe-y platitudes—“Everything happens for a reason” or “You’ll bounce back better than ever”. Those phrases land flat when someone’s hurting from a sudden layoff (particularly when they DO know why it happened and that’s adding to the stress.)

Instead, say:

“This sucks. I can’t fix it, but I’m here with you in it.”

 2. Offer Practical Help (Because Actions Speak Loudest)

Big gestures are wonderful, but small, thoughtful actions often matter even more after a sudden layoff. The question is: What would help them right now? And sometimes, it’s the practical, logistical stuff that lifts the heaviest weight.

Can you:

Watch their kids so they can take an interview or clear their head?

Cover coffee (or lunch) and let them vent—or not talk about the job search?

Help them rehearse for an interview or polish their LinkedIn profile.

I’ll never forget the time (thirty years ago) when my (then) mother-in-law offered to cover daycare after my (then) husband lost his job. We had a new baby and a new house (with a big mortgage). It was a game-changer. That single act of practical support allowed him to focus fully on his job search without guilt or chaos, and me to stay focused on my brand new job, knowing our son was in good hands.

3. Amplify Their Story—Because Networks Matter

Once your friend is ready to job hunt, one of the best ways you can help is to share their story. Most people don’t get their next job from their closest friends—it’s from those “friend of a friend” connections. Research backs this up: Weak ties are more likely to lead to new opportunities than close ones.

But here’s the thing: Talking about yourself after a layoff can feel awkward or exhausting. That’s where you can step in. Offer to help them frame their narrative and share it with your network:

“Hey, my friend is an incredible project manager with a passion for mission-driven work in ________ arena. They’ve led cross-functional, matrixed teams and launched initiatives that drove real impact. If you know of anything, please reach out!”

Even if you don’t have direct leads, you might spark that “friend of a friend” magic—and that can make all the difference.

4. Remind Them of Their Impact– And Why It Still Matters

Job loss isn’t just about losing a paycheck—it can also come with a deep sense of frustration, and feeling like their work has been wasted.. Your friend might be questioning their worth, especially if they felt a deep connection to why their work matters. So, remind them of what hasn’t changed: their skills, their heart, and the impact they’ve made.

Try something like:

“I remember when you led that project—how everyone said it wouldn’t happen without you. That’s who you are. And that hasn’t changed.”

The job title may be gone, but their value isn’t. Sometimes, they just need you to hold up the mirror until they can see it for themselves.

5. Ask, Don’t Assume—But Be Ready to Act

Not everyone knows what they need right away—and that’s okay. But you can still ask:

“How can I support you right now?”

If they don’t know, don’t push. Instead, offer something specific:

“Would it help to take a break and grab coffee this week?”

“I can review your resume if that’s useful.”

“Want me to introduce you to my friend who works in your industry?”

Sometimes, having options makes it easier for them to say yes—or no—without pressure.

 6. Keep Checking In (Because the Job Search Marathon is Real)

The hardest part of a job search isn’t always the first few weeks—it’s the middle stretch, when the interviews stall and the rejections pile up. That’s when most people stop asking, “How are you doing?” But that’s exactly when your friend needs you most.

Set a reminder. Check in. And don’t make it all about their search—because they are more than their job hunt. Celebrate their wins and be there for their setbacks.

Over to You: Let’s put the strength of weak ties to work.

I’d love to hear: How have you shown up for a friend during a sudden layoff or career setback? Or if you’ve been through it yourself, what did someone do that truly helped you? Share it. Because somewhere, someone is “asking for a friend”—and your experience might be just what they need.

And hey—if you’re a friend looking for your next role, drop your skills and goals in the comments. Let’s make those “friend of a friend” connections work their magic.

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Note: I first published this Asking for a Friend on LinkedIn— and it’s getting a lot of attention. So, if you’re feeling this please know you have other kindred spirits with you. If we’re not connected on LinkedIn, and you want to change that, send me a request I’d love to connect with human-centered leaders. 

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