“What do I do if my boss is a “gamer” manager–the kind of manipulative boss you talk about in your book Winning Well? This dude is not really focused on results or relationships. I feel like a pawn. What should I do? #AskingforaFriend”
This is a question we get quite frequently from people reading our book: Winning Well: A Manager’s Guide To Getting Results– Without Losing Your Soul.
3 Tips for Dealing with a Manipulative Boss
Today, I offer a few thoughts. Have you ever worked for someone like this? What would you add?
1. Whatever you do, don’t get sucked into the gaming, manipulative boss vortex.
First, don’t become a manipulative manager yourself. You have a long career to consider. It’s very important that you maintain the credibility of your own brand.
2. Focus on creating a “cultural oasis.“
Next, be sure that everyone you lead and influence is being led well. Show up with confidence and humility, focused on results and relationships.
Be deliberate in building trust: up, down, and sideways.
3. Build a strong network of mentors and peer relationships,
And, surround yourself with people who will help you continue to grow. Get the support you need to stay true to your values.
What would you add?
What advice do you have for someone who has a manipulative boss, “gamer” boss?
Note: This was filmed at the King’s Road in Ireland on a pre-pandemic trip speaking at the Project Management Institute Global conference.
This question continues to come up so frequently, that I thought it was time to gather additional insights.