My heart sunk as I heard all Kathy had done attempting to fix the scene. Actually, despite the reason for her call, the “scene” was progressing remarkably. They’d come so far in such a short time: a clear vision for 2015; a strong action plan on the biggest rock; a shared leadership model for execution; and Kathy had stepped up to lead her peers in coordinating the action plan. When they presented the plan to the CEO he remarked that the plan was “gold,” all they need now was execution.
She had tasted the beautiful, supported cocktail of pressure coupled with opportunity, and was ready to change the game.
But the call wasn’t about all that. It was about her stuckness.
“Everyone’s on board. But one of my peers hates it.”
She went through everything she had tried to get him engaged.
Connection. Listening. Disclosure. Listening. Questions. Vulnerability. Inclusion. Sharing Credit.
“This means I’m failing as a leader.”
EDITORIAL TIMEOUT: How many times have you drawn that same conclusion? P.S. Yes, start with humility and do everything you can. But sometimes, it’s not about you. Ironically, being sure it’s about you, is not humility.
Careful to be sure I hadn’t missed anything, I asked her to repeat exactly what she’d said. This time she added, “I know I’m not always like this, but I this time, I’m sure. I was really nice. I promise.”
EDITORIAL TIMEOUT: This could be part of the issue. Folks have memory of our past behavior, even as we’re looking to grow.
She shared the connection she’d made with others. The engagement. The helping people get past “I’m not sure.”
She was nailing it.
EDITORIAL TIMEOUT: Yikes, maybe I was failing. I was out of provocative questions, and even worse, advice.
And then I went where I usually don’t.
“Can you succeed without him?”
“Yes,” she replied, “But it won’t be as much fun.”
That’s the spirit. She had the big picture.
“I understand. Does the business need this? Is everyone else all in? ”
Reinforcing the obvious.
“Yes. Yes. Yes.”
Sadly, my best advice, “Do everything you can to keep trying. Stay confident in your vision, humble in your approach. But at the end of the day. Keep moving the project forward.”
“Oh yeah, and be sure your boss is in the loop.”