Developing the dance between ambition and humility, especially in your successful team members who may not demonstrate much leadership humility, requires intentional coaching. Amer Kaissi and I discuss this in part 3 (of 3) in our Asking for a Friend series based on concepts from his book, Humbitious: The Power of Low-Ego, High-Drive Leadership.
How Do I Coach and Develop Leadership Humility in a Team Member?
How do we help them merge ambition and leadership humility?
Give them a coach (the gift of coaching.)
If you can’t, then YOU start acting as a coach by asking open-ended questions.
4:24 Listening – the value of coming to a coaching session with a plateful of feedback (via Julie Winkle Giulioni)
We all have blind spots, so 360 listening is valuable.
The way others see you tends to be more accurate than how you see yourself- develop leadership humility by sharing more opportunities for feedback
What about people who have been successful even though they aren’t humble?
That is more the exception to the rule. They also tend to succeed in the short term. Imagine their success IF they ALSO had humility. If you want to leave a legacy, focus on an intentional merge of humility and ambition.
Your turn: Have you worked with a successful person who lacked leadership humility? How would you coach them?
Previous Posts/Episodes in this series on with Karin Hurt and Amer Kaissi
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