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What Your Is Team Saying Behind Your Back

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Have you ever talked about your boss behind your back? If you haven’t complained to at least someone…you’re a saint. Call me. I’m sure you’ve got some wisdom we can share here at LGL.

For the rest of us… you know… right? Just like you’re complaining about that boss who (you might even like a lot of the time) has behaviors you wish they would improve–SOON.  And chances are you haven’t told them.

Here’s the real deal. No matter how wonderful you are, I guarantee you, your team is talking about you (in some way that would surprise you) too.

How do I know this? Well, in addition to all the barrage of stories I hear from the companies I work with, the classroom full of MBA students who attended my Managing Difficult People elective all have one thing in common. Despite the advertised name of the class, guess who 100% are there to talk about? Yup. You guessed it. The inapproachable “jerk” who is their boss. As we dig in, he’s never that bad. #justsaying #letmehelp

That’s the spirit behind Winning Well. No one leads in a soul sucking way on purpose.  David Dye and I are on a mission to help you (and your bosses and your direct reports) lead better.

Sure it’s hard. You and your bosses are sandwiched between all kinds of competing priorities. And it’s tricky to think about how to do it right.

But it can also be made much easier by learning some extremely practical tools and techniques (this is a 2 minute video).

I promise you. A little bit of quality leadership development is worth the investment.

If you haven’t downloaded a FREE chapter of Winning Well, accessed the free toolkit, or taken the free online assessment, click here to get started. 

If you just want to talk for an hour (my dime) about why you’re a Winning Well leader or areas you’re looking to improve please contact my awesome assistant, Beth at beth@letsgrowleaders.com and she will get something scheduled.

I know we can help. And we have a wide range of solutions for every budget, including our newly released Winning Well online course.

Your turn. How do you hear what your team is putting down?
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Karin Hurt
Karin Hurt
Karin Hurt helps leaders around the world achieve breakthrough results, without losing their soul. A former Verizon Wireless executive, she has over two decades of experience in sales, customer service, and HR. She was recently named on Inc's list of 100 Great Leadership Speakers, AMA's 50 Leaders to Watch in 2015, & Top Thought Leader in Trust by Trust Across America. She’s the author of 2 books: Winning Well: A Manager's Guide to Getting Results-Without Losing Your Soul and Overcoming an Imperfect Boss.
 

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LaRae Quy   |   09 June 2016   |   Reply

I love this Karin because YES, we’ve all been guilty of 1) talking behind our boss’s back, and 2) been the one who’s talked about! And while it’s a bit of a cultural norm to complain about the boss, it can lead to big trouble if you’re the boss and aren’t aware of the criticisms around you. I’ve discovered that three things work well for me: 1) cultivating real relationships with my team left them more willing to honestly share their doubts or concerns about a direction that I may be taking; 2) letting go of ego and developing enough self-awareness that I could sense how I was coming across to my team; and 3) asking for feedback in a way that indicated I was serious about their response. Great topic!

Karin Hurt   |   09 June 2016   |   Reply

LaRae, Thanks so much! I’ve been on both sides of it too. Love your advice here!

Tom Green   |   06 July 2016   |   Reply

Karin, I just came across your blog and this particular post. There’s no way to stop people from talking about us behind our backs–employees or any other relationship. But we can invite others to say more to us directly–about their concerns, ideas, needs, etc. And then honor them by listening and expressing our gratitude.

Thanks for sharing your insights!

Karin Hurt   |   06 July 2016   |   Reply

Thanks, Tom! Great point. The more we invite candid dialogue, the less people feel like they want to gossip.

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