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angst 300x300 But Your Life Looks So Perfect on FacebookI just got off the phone with an old friend.  She had several important concerns weighing on her heart.  We talked about them for a while, and then she shared:

You know I was talking to another friend about this and she said, “but your life looks so perfect on Facebook.”

I took a quick look at her Facebook page.  Of course it did.  It’s Facebook.   Who wants to put their troubles out there for the world to see?   All those great pics are absolutely true.  Much in her life is fantastic.  And, like every single one of us, other parts are messy.

So What’s This Got To Do With Leadership?

As leaders we work hard to present a “together” image.  How this shows up varies on the organization, context and culture.

Maybe it’s…

  • the right shoes
  • perfectly organized meetings
  • perfectly put together wardrobes
  • perfectly polished speeches
  • stories of how your bold career moves worked out just right
  • an office full of awards
  • happy pictures of your happy family
  • …?

I’ll pause here to let you fill in the blank for your world.  What is your organization’s equivalent to “looking good on Facebook.” Continue Reading…

iStock 000015090448XSmall 300x235 Hot Mess Leadership: When Image Becomes DangerousThe term “hot mess” typically refers to someone disheveled on the outside with some redeeming qualities on the inside.  Urban dictionary defines a “hot mess” as

“when one’s thought or appearance are in a state of disarray, but they maintain an undeniable attractiveness or beauty”

Leaders can go a long way by getting clothes that fit, shoes that shine, and well-kept hair and nails.

Work on your magnetism.  Refrain from stupid outbursts.  You will have another leg up.

It’s important to avoid being a “hot mess”.

Cleaning up the outside matters. Continue Reading…