Amy was dreading her performance review. She’d just be in the job a year, and her interactions with her imperfect boss were becoming more tense and intense with each passing month. The truth was, she questioned his approach to running the department, and he wasn’t listening to her ideas. She didn’t love his suggestions, and often reacted defensively to his feedback, making matters worse
After a hectic but fun Saturday morning of speaking on a Lead Change panel and schlepping my son to baseball practice and art lessons, Sebastian and I decided to try out the newish Ethiopian restaurant for lunch.
“Every man, through fear, mugs his aspiration a dozen times a day.”~ Brendan Francis
The place wasn’t
He had all the signs and words of stuck. “I can’t” “No one will help.” “No options.” He’d stop trying to improve the situation and was looking to numb it. His “sports ready” stance had withered to hunched and clenched. He still had an occassional “wish” for a miracle. But, wishes without action are another side of hopeless. And yet, from the
You are born authentic. Life happens. You slowly start to hide bits of yourself from yourself and others. Not deliberately. It’s a gradual mutation, hard to see– let alone feel. You work to convince your heart this new you is practical, even necessary. More life happens. Reverse the pattern.
Benefits of Aging
From the hundreds of folks weighing in on yesterday’s post in various circles
You know they can do it. They’re scared. Their lack of courage is a downward spiral. Fear stops trying. Lack of trying creates doubt. Doubt affirms negative self-perceptions. It breaks my heart to watch highly qualified, talented people let scared stop them. And yet, it’s hard for those born with a few extra confidence genes to build courage in others. Skills that come naturally are hardest to
When the going gets tough, managing up gets tougher. Scared stifles truth. Needs stay unsaid. Unfounded worries mushroom in the dark. Unquestioned assumptions breed false conclusions. Your boss can’t know what you’re thinking. Don’t assume–anything. Unsaid needs can never be met. “My boss won’t understand,” is likely
My friend ran up to me while we were waiting to pick up our kids. “I’ve got this great idea and I know a lot of people are interested.” I listened. It was brilliant. I was ready to sign up to help. But next she shared, “Nobody’s asked me to start leading it, so why should I volunteer?” And then, “I keep hoping somebody else will step up and take the lead.” I
When you take your leadership seriously, you are on a constant search for input. “How am I doing?” “What do you think” “How did that go?” “Am I on your short list?” Before I go any further, let me stop and warn you. This is one of those “do what I say not as a I do” posts. I don’t have this handled. Maybe you wrestle with this too. Perhaps we can work on it together. The Trouble With