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How to Become the Best ___________

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One of my millennial friends, Vince, recently posted this on Facebook.

“I may not be the best organist, and yes, I play it like a piano. But I am determined to learn the Tocatta part of Tocatta and Fugue in D minor down for Saturday for a tour group I am playing for.”

The rush of comments seemed to entirely miss the point. “You worry too much.” “You are a great pianist.” For a little extra inspiration while you read on click here: Tocatta and Fugue in D Minor.

No one becomes the “best organist” without hours and hours…and hours…spent obsessing over and replaying the difficult runs. His comment showed that he was well on his way to becoming the best he could be. If you’re looking to become the best _______ (insert your audacious goal here,) follow Vince’s example.

4 Vital Factors to Becoming the Best __________

1. Take an Honest Assessment of Where You Are

Notice that Vince’s words had nothing to do with talent (which would imply finite potential). I’ve heard Vince play. In fact I’ve sung with him on more than one occasion. He’s solid. And, clearly someone he respects has told him he plays the organ like the piano… for now. And he’s listening. The best way to become the best is to have a clear view of where you stand and what you need to improve.

2. Accept Challenges that Feel Slightly Out of Reach

The only way to become better each day, is to take on the hard challenges that make your brain hurt and require you to stretch yourself to achieve them. The people at the top of their fields don’t say, “Oh, I’m not ready for that.” Instead they take a deep breath and say, “Game on.”

3. Work Your Butt Off

More than talent, truly successful people schlog many long hours perfecting their craft. They’re up early and work late.  They don’t watch much TV. If it takes 37 times to get one measure right, they play it 38 times just in case. The fastest runners have logged the miles. The best writers write every day. Whenever I start wishing that I could write like Seth Godin, I remind myself that he’s written 10x more blog posts than I have, and keep writing.

4. Don’t Wait Until You’re Perfect to Perform

One of my best friends is a brilliant writer, but as Seth would say, she seldom “ships her art.” She talks herself out of the blog posts or book chapters mid-way through. No one expects perfection, they want to hear your voice.

If you want to be the best ______ get out there and do it, surround yourself with supportive hearts, pay attention to what works, and enjoy the ride.

Filed Under:   Career & Learning, confident humility
 
 
Karin Hurt
Karin Hurt
Karin Hurt helps leaders around the world achieve breakthrough results, without losing their soul. A former Verizon Wireless executive, she has over two decades of experience in sales, customer service, and HR. She was recently named on Inc's list of 100 Great Leadership Speakers, AMA's 50 Leaders to Watch in 2015, & Top Thought Leader in Trust by Trust Across America. She’s the author of 2 books: Winning Well: A Manager's Guide to Getting Results-Without Losing Your Soul and Overcoming an Imperfect Boss.
 

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James McKey   |   07 October 2015   |   Reply

This parallels so well with Brene Brown’s discussions on shame and vulnerability (I’m reading Daring Greatly currently). It sounds like many people commented on Vince’s FB post with their own shame perspective in mind. Rather than recognizing that he was just being honest and intentionally vulnerable they instead thought he was hunting for encouragement while feeling shameful. From what I’m learning from Brene’s research, this is insanely common. Everyone carries shame and at one time or another has let it talk them out of just getting started. Instead they balk feeling they first need to reach some silly state of internal perfection that involves showing no errors to your peers and family.

For me I’ve forced myself to have some deadlines this week in regards to producing content and will make my content fit those timelines. I’ll be proud of putting something out, and work to let go of fretting about who’s going to say what in the comments.