I’m with you. In fact when I was pregnant, my assistant announced she had blocked 30 minutes for me every day to walk to the cafeteria for lunch. I was allowed to move the “appointment”, but not delete it… “for the sake of the baby.”
Oh sure, I do business lunches… with an agenda and a purpose. And my sales team used to share that whenever I had something serious to talk about I invited them for a “pumpkin latte.” When sales started to dip, I would get a preemptive call, “I’ve already started scouting out the nearest Starbucks… I know you’ll want to talk.”
So I was surprised when a former colleague invited me to lunch. In all the years we worked together (in the same building) we hadn’t gone to lunch. Now he was at another company. I thought…he must need help…I’d better make the time.
What I Learned at Lunch
We met for lunch and I waited for the agenda to emerge. There was none. We got caught up on our careers and families. We talked about leadership and engagement, culture, common business challenges, hopes, disappointments…
And then he shared:
“You know the biggest difference between the 2 cultures? At my new company going to lunch is encouraged. Our entire culture is built on relationships. We have an open invitation to invite anyone from any other department to lunch, just to get to know them. No agenda required. And we can expense it.”
I laughed, “my finance guy would never have allowed that (he was my finance guy).” ”Yup,” he admitted.
As he picked up the check, I vowed to treat the next time.
I got back to my office and looked and my calendar. Who could use a nice salad?