2 Helpful Questions to Ask Yourself Each Day

 What questions cause you to pause? What questions lead to helpful reflection? Today I share two questions I find helpful What questions do you use to guide your daily leadership?

Q1: How can I be most helpful?

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

This is a great “first thing in the morning” question.

  • Review your calendar can you proactively plan some helps? 
  • Are you using your gifts in the most helpful way?
  • Who haven’t you checked in on in a while? What do they most need?
  • How’s the balance? Has your helping titled too much toward work, home or somewhere else?
  • Who needs some cheerleading?
  • Who can you connect with whom?
  • As you go through the day, what can you do to surprise people with random acts of helping?
  • ?

Of course a great follow-up question for the end of the day is: How was I helpful today?

Q2: How would they feel about working with me again?

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

This one is tricky. It takes stepping back and having an objective view. Sure what you accomplished is important, but how did you make people feel along the way?

  • Did you treat them with respect?
  • Can they count on you to do what you say?
  • Are you the go-to guy?
  • Did you add creative value?
  • Were your meetings or projects well-organized?
  • Did you ensure everyone had a voice?
  • Do your peers feel you have their back?
  • Do you bring positive energy to the scene?
  • Do you share credit?
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Karin Hurt

Karin Hurt, is CEO of Let’s Grow Leaders and a former Verizon Wireless executive. Karin was named on Inc.’s list of 100 Great Leadership Speakers for Your Next Conference, the American Management Association List of 50 Leaders to Watch, and as a Trust Across America Top Thought Leader in Trust. She’s the award-winning author of two books, Winning Well: A Manager’s Guide to Getting Results— Without Losing Your Soul, and Overcoming an Imperfect Boss. She’s regularly featured in business publications including Fast Company, Entrepreneur, and Inc.


  1. I am people’s go to guy.

    When someone want’s clarity. When they want a high definition picture of what to do next, they show up on my door step.

    This happened the other day. I had lunch with a business friend who’s considering a new chapter in their life.

    I had a similar meeting with another millennial a month ago. He was also seeking clarity.

    My intuition said to introduce them to each other which I did via social media. I think there’s synergies between these two.

    For the magic to begin, begin with intention.

  2. I like to ask if I’m doing my best to see things from others’ perspectives? One of the best ways to consider how you make another person feel is to better understand where they are coming from. What are their expectations? What past experiences have they had that might hinder effective progress? What are their priorities and responsibilities? And so on.
    I’ve found these kinds of considerations are especially important when you’re a change agent.

  3. Being in Recovery for over 6yrs, the question I ask each day is the 1st one you listed! Being balanced, and strong in my recovery gives me the honor of asking myself “How can I be of service to others in recovery today? Sometimes it is an easy task, but it can also be a little tough when your helping someone in crisis. Which brings me to my 2nd question I ask myself each day, “Am I strong enough today to handle any and all life challenges today?” When I wrote a little book about a big addiction, it has blessed me many times over! I grew up with parents that did not understand to love freely, with no expectations or favors back. I chose to not do that to others. Thanks for this article!

    • Dear All Things, thank you so much for joining the conversation and expanding it with your experience. It sounds like your journey is wonderful and so helpful.

  4. My key question is “Do I make others better?” It is a great way to also think about the people are you – “Are they making me better?” When these two questions are in sync, it creates great conversations and lifts us both up in what we do, how we do it, and why. Thanks!

    • Excellent post. As a journalist, I think a lot about the right questions, the next questions. And I like questions as a coach, encourager and change agent too.

      Three of my favorites are:

      “How are you nurturing relationships that will lead to prosperity, collaboration?”

      ” What projects are you working on that will really matter / AKA change the world?”

      “Why?” or “Why not?” – Gives you a chance to look deeper, to understand the motivation and intentions.

    • Dear WorkingKind, ahh yes, thanks so much for adding that… “the next question” is almost always the most important question. In fact, I sense a follow-up post in that. You have some great questions here. Thanks so much for joining the conversation.

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