How To Be Your Own Experiment

Have you made a New Year’s resolution? I am always astounded at how many folks tell me that their resolution is “the same as last year.”

It’s often the same with our leadership. We read the books, we take the course, we build our action plans. We keep working on the same stuff, it gets better for a while and then we hit a snag. Perhaps we revert back to our old behavior. That’s when the real work begins.

“If you call failures experiments, you can put them on your resume and claim them as achievements”
~Mason Cooley

Hmm… Perhaps we are going about it the wrong way. What if instead of a New Year’s resolution, we approached 2013 as an ongoing experiment toward what we are hoping to become.

I’ve been intrigued by the book, Change Anything: The New Science of Personal Success.  It’s not a leadership book per say, but worth a read, particularly if you are serious about making a significant change.

Be The Scientist and The Subject

What struck me most in terms of application to leadership was the concept of “being the scientist and the subject.”

Whether working to lose weight or changing your leadership approach, it’s not about following someone else’s diet or following the steps outlined in a leadership course.

Instead what works best is trying something new and carefully paying attention to how that worked adjusting and trying again.

The changers we studied discovered what worked for them through a scientific process of trial and error. They didn’t get it right the first time. in truth, when people are struggling with tenacious habits, few ever do. Instead they took two steps forward and one step back — and sometimes the reverse. But they had a skillful way of learning from their setbacks so that their plan evolved in a deliberate direction. They snipped a little here and added a little there. They tried a new technique, observed, learned and tried again. Day by day, week by week, they moved forward until one day their plan addressed all of their unique challenges– and they succeed.

Change Anything author Kerry Patterson and team go on to share how identifying critical moments, vital behaviors and understanding the sources of influence can all inform this personal experiment.

“If you want to succeed, you’ll have to give up the hope of simply being the subject of some smart person’s discovery. You’ll have to be both the scientist and the subject– in search of the most important science discovery of all: how to change you.”

How can you “turn bad days into good data?”

When your resolution becomes an experiment, even mistakes can be progress.

What is your 2013 experiment?

Push Harder, Dig Deeper, Raise the Bar…Or?

When we feel stuck, there is a tendency to push harder. What if that doesn’t work?

“If you do everything you possibly can to get something to happen, and it doesn’t, than an angel must be on the road somewhere, so don’t beat the donkey. Take a little time out, smell the flowers, and rethink your route and your mission.”

Frustration is part of leadership

Knowing that doesn’t make it any easier. We all get stuck from time to time. The typical reaction

  • push our teams more
  • push ourselves even harder
  • work longer hours
  • add more resources
  • ?

Sometimes pushing more is helpful. Sometimes it is not. In his best-selling book, The Dip, Seth Godin shares how to know when to push through the muck, and when to “quit with integrity.” Much time and future opportunity is wasted on pushing through when it would have been better to quit and to try a different approach.

Frustration is part of careers

Frustration can also be part of careers. I often see people get “stuck” and start to push. The typical reaction.

  • push for an explanation
  • push for more feedback
  • do more stakeholdering
  • question our worth
  • ?

I remember the first time I felt really stuck in my career. A mentor told me, “what’s for you won’t miss you.” Not what my ambitious twenty-something self wanted to hear. I pushed harder. I got frustrated, disappointed and angry. The thing is, I never did get that “dream job.” Ironically, a few years later I was offered a much more senior job over that department, leading the people who now held that role.

Apparently, she was right “what was for me” didn’t “miss” me. I now regret all that wasted frustration.

Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. reminds us to “surrender control and allow yourself to be guided to the outcome that will be of highest service to both you and the world.” That can be difficult, but surprisingly effective.

How to Build On What’s Working

I am honored to have published the first post of the year on Lead Change Group, Beyond New Year’s Resolutions: Building on Your Leadership Success.

In this post I encourage you to think beyond what must change in the New Year, and ask yourself targeted questions of what you must continue on your leadership journey. How can you build on what’s working?

I encourage you to click on the link and enjoy the post as well as the other posts from leadership thought leaders.

Happy New Year.

How to Build On What's Working

I am honored to have published the first post of the year on Lead Change Group, Beyond New Year’s Resolutions: Building on Your Leadership Success.

In this post I encourage you to think beyond what must change in the New Year, and ask yourself targeted questions of what you must continue on your leadership journey. How can you build on what’s working?

I encourage you to click on the link and enjoy the post as well as the other posts from leadership thought leaders.

Happy New Year.